Comparison Kills

I heard my colleague say that “comparison is the thief of joy”.

Let’s be real for a sec? Regardless of how good you are in your field, be it blogging, career-wise, as a wife, a mom, student – we compare ourselves to the people on our social media feeds. I’ve got my hand all the way up for this one. Instead of feeling fulfilled in all the mountains that we have moved in our own lives, we look at Susan’s feed and feel like we haven’t done enough yet. Like we haven’t reached the bar.

I had a real conversation with someone who manages to put out blog content about 3 times a week, while being a full-time corporate adult, married with 3 kids. Before this conversation, this person legit made me feel like I was being mediocre in all areas of the word without it being their intention at all. When we spoke about it, I realized that it takes her just as much effort and sacrifice (actually, way more) to keep going at life in general. Throw in the fact that life happens to all of us at different degrees of crazy and we’ve gotta pause and take care of stuff. She made me see the¬†actual¬†picture. Not the peachy, well-edited version of life that people put out there. She shared with me the realness that is life. I felt a wave of peace sweep over me when I thought about that conversation on my way home.

The thing is, nobody’s life is all sunsets and roses and pretty clothes and beautiful edits and blog posts with 10 000+ impressions at every attempt. Unless you’re Kim K, because then that’s completely how you roll. We all highlight what we often times think will make people “like” us more. We forget that there is a definite need for realness in the world. People who show themselves as they are, with all of their humanness showing.

Being real is a big deal for me. #issabigdeal. It’s what made me fall for the man I married, it’s the foundation of all of the solid relationships I have built up. It is the reason why I would rather avoid someone than to fake a smile for the sake of not hurting someone’s feelings. I cant deal with fakeness. #issanofromme

The truth of the matter is that we are all influencers, whether you’d like to claim the title or not. What I say and do affects the people around me – the ones who follow my content on social media, the ones who read my blog posts and the ones I encounter face to face.

So while I have this power, I’m going to do my best to make sure my influence does as much good as possible. That it gives courage, strength, motivation, inspiration and sparks a confidence that is not affected by what we see on the internet.

Do you boo! We need you to be 100% yourself. You owe that to yourself and so many people who see you do life. We see you and we appreciate the hard work you’re putting into becoming a better version of yourself daily.

Keep grinding!